You’ve tried the grounding exercises, the breathing apps, the “thought reframing” journals—and yet, the anxiety keeps creeping in. If you’ve ever felt like therapy tools aren’t quite clicking, or that something deeper is being overlooked, you’re not alone. And you’re definitely not doing anything wrong.

For many women, especially those in their 20s and 30s, anxiety is only part of the picture. ADHD—often undiagnosed or misunderstood—can quietly shape your entire experience of stress, overwhelm, and emotion. And if that part of the picture is missing, traditional anxiety treatment can fall frustratingly short.

ADHD burnout is a deep, layered exhaustion that comes from constantly navigating a world that isn’t built for your brain.

It’s the crash that happens after weeks, months, or even years of masking symptoms, overcompensating for executive dysfunction, and working twice as hard just to keep up with everyday tasks. You’re not just tired—you’re depleted. Emotionally. Mentally. Physically.

Burnout can look a lot like depression, but the root is different. It’s not just about being overwhelmed. It’s about what happens when your energy is constantly drained by the mental effort of managing your ADHD—especially when no one else sees the cost.

If your ADHD symptoms seem to come and go—or feel completely overwhelming one week and barely noticeable the next—you’re not imagining things. You’re not inconsistent or unmotivated. For many women, the missing piece of the ADHD puzzle is hormones.

ADHD research and treatment models have historically focused on boys and men. But for women, the hormonal fluctuations that come with menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause can dramatically affect how ADHD shows up—and how manageable it feels.

One of the biggest myths about ADHD is that it’s something only kids deal with.

Yes, some people see certain symptoms (like hyperactivity) decrease over time. But many others—especially women—experience the opposite. Because as life gets more complex, so do the demands on your brain.

That doesn’t mean you’re regressing. It means your brain is trying to function in an increasingly overstimulating world, and it’s asking for support.

Burnout is easy to recognize when it's loud: The sleepless nights. The 2 p.m. coffee crashes. The feeling of running on fumes but pretending you're fine.

But what about when burnout starts so early you don’t even notice it anymore? When your baseline is exhaustion? When keeping up with basic life tasks feels like sprinting on a moving sidewalk that’s tilted against you?

That’s when it gets trickier. That’s when burnout stops looking like a bad week and starts looking like your whole identity:

I’m a mess. I’m unreliable. I’m lazy. I’m too much.

But sometimes — especially for women and gender-diverse folks — what looks like “normal” stress is actually a brain trying desperately to function in a world it wasn’t designed for.

And that brain? It might be neurodivergent.

If you’ve spent years feeling like you're too sensitive, too scattered, too forgetful, or just somehow too much for the world around you, you’re not alone. And there’s a very real possibility that what you’ve been experiencing isn’t a personal failing at all. It could be ADHD — just not the version most of us were taught to look for.

ADHD in women often shows up internally — not necessarily as bouncing off the walls, but as endless overthinking, perfectionism, emotional overwhelm, and deep exhaustion from masking struggles that no one else can see.

Maybe you've always felt a little out of sync with the people around you. Maybe you’ve gotten really good at hiding the ways you struggle — masking your overwhelm, laughing off your forgetfulness, pushing through exhaustion like it’s normal. And maybe, lately, you’ve been wondering: "Is it just me? Or could there be something deeper going on?"

If you're living in that in-between space — not officially diagnosed with anything, but sensing that something feels off — you’re not alone. And you don't need a permission slip from a doctor to start exploring your own experiences.

Somewhere along the way, you might have started wondering: “Why does everything feel a little harder for me than it seems to be for other people?"

Maybe you’ve brushed it off, blamed it on being "bad at adulting," or convinced yourself you just need to try harder. But what if there’s more to the story? What if your brain is wired a little differently — and beautifully — from the way the world expects it to be?

ADHD and anxiety are more connected than you might think. While they’re two different things, they frequently show up together—especially in women. And yet, even as awareness grows, many women continue to be overlooked or misdiagnosed. That’s partly because their symptoms don’t always match the stereotypical and outdated idea of ADHD. Instead of being “disruptive” or visibly restless, women might come across as forgetful, scattered, sensitive, or overwhelmed by daily life. Understanding how anxiety and ADHD show up differently in women is essential—not just for getting the right diagnosis, but for figuring out what will actually help. When we finally put the puzzle pieces together, everything starts to make a little more sense.

Burnout isn’t just about feeling tired—it’s a full-body shutdown that makes even the smallest tasks feel overwhelming. For women with ADHD, who constantly navigate mental overload, emotional ups and downs, and the pressure to keep up, burnout can feel like an endless cycle. But exhaustion doesn’t have to be your norm. With the right support, you escape from the burnout spiral and regain control of your energy and focus. Therapy intensives offer a powerful, fast-track approach to healing—giving you the tools and clarity you need to recharge and move forward with confidence.

Trauma affects everyone differently, and finding the right therapy can make all the difference in healing. Brainspotting and EMDR are two powerful approaches to processing trauma, each with unique strengths. While EMDR provides a structured, guided process to target specific memories, Brainspotting offers a more flexible, client-led experience to uncover and resolve deeply buried emotions. Both therapies can help you move forward, but understanding their differences is key to choosing the right approach for you.

The post-holiday slump is a familiar feeling for many people, especially if you’re struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem, or people-pleasing tendencies. While the winter months can feel heavy, they also provide an opportunity for self-care, reflection, and growth. Read about and learn some practical self-care tips, insights into post-holiday depression, and how therapy can support you through the winter blues.

Read about how ADHD and anxiety uniquely show up in women, why they’re often overlooked, and how understanding their intersection is key to effective treatment. If you’ve ever felt like your struggles were “just your personality,” this is for you!

Anxiety can feel overwhelming, making even simple tasks seem impossible. Often, it doesn’t appear out of nowhere—deep-seated memories and unresolved emotions are usually at play. EMDR therapy provides a unique way to address the root causes of anxiety. By using bilateral stimulation to process distressing memories, EMDR helps reduce emotional triggers and break the cycle of fear. When guided by an EMDR trained therapist, this approach not only alleviates symptoms but can lead to lasting healing and relief.

Read about the brain-based modalities, EMDR and Brainspotting, and learn about how intensives that use these modalities are the fastest and most effective approach to symptom relief.

Read about how anxiety impacts women’s hormones and learn some strategies to help manage your anxiety and hormones.

Read about how anxiety can impact your physical health and learn some strategies to help manage your anxiety and stress to reduce the strain on your cardiovascular system.

Read about the differences between anxiety and trauma responses and learn how to determine which may be driving your reactions.

Read and learn about people-pleasing as a trauma response and how to break the people-pleasing cycle.

Read and learn about EMDR therapy and the benefits of it.